And in conclusion....

MARRIED OR NOT, YOU SHOULD READ THIS...

She looked at me, astonished, and then touched my forehead. Do you have a fever? She said. I moved her hand off my head. Sorry, Jane, I said, I won’t divorce. My marriage life was boring probably because she and I didn't value the details of our lives not because we didn't love each other anymore. Now I realize that since I carried her into my home on our wedding day I am supposed to hold her until death do us apart. Jane seemed to suddenly wake up. She gave me a loud slap and then slammed the door and burst into tears. I walked downstairs and drove away. At the floral shop on the way, I ordered a bouquet of flowers for my wife. The salesgirl asked me what to write on the card. I smiled and wrote, I’ll carry you out every morning until death do us apart.

That evening I arrived home, flowers in my hands, a smile on my face, I run up stairs, only to find my wife in the bed -dead. My wife had been fighting CANCER for months and I was so busy with Jane to even notice. She knew that she would die soon and she wanted to save me from the whatever negative reaction from our son, in case we push through with the divorce.— At least, in the eyes of our son—- I’m a loving husband….

The small details of your lives are what really matter in a relationship. It is not the mansion, the car, property, the money in the bank. These create an environment conducive for happiness but cannot give happiness in themselves.

So find time to be your spouse’s friend and do those little things for each other that build intimacy. If you are not in a relationship now, remember this for the second (or third) time around. It's never too late.

If you don’t share this, nothing will happen to you.

If you do, you just might save a marriage. Many of life’s failures are people who did not realize how close they were to success when they gave up. 

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Married or Not..............

On the fourth day, when I lifted her up, I felt a sense of intimacy returning. This was the woman who had given ten years of her life to me. On the fifth and sixth day, I realized that our sense of intimacy was growing again. I didn't tell Jane about this. It became easier to carry her as the month slipped by. Perhaps the everyday workout made me stronger.

She was choosing what to wear one morning. She tried on quite a few dresses but could not find a suitable one. Then she sighed, all my dresses have grown bigger. I suddenly realized that she had grown so thin, that was the reason why I could carry her more easily.

Suddenly it hit me… she had buried so much pain and bitterness in her heart. Subconsciously I reached out and touched her head.

Our son came in at the moment and said, Dad, it’s time to carry mom out. To him, seeing his father carrying his mother out had become an essential part of his life. My wife gestured to our son to come closer and hugged him tightly. I turned my face away because I was afraid I might change my mind at this last minute. I then held her in my arms, walking from the bedroom, through the sitting room, to the hallway. Her hand surrounded my neck softly and naturally. I held her body tightly; it was just like our wedding day.

But her much lighter weight made me sad. On the last day, when I held her in my arms I could hardly move a step. Our son had gone to school. I held her tightly and said, I hadn't noticed that our life lacked intimacy. I drove to office…. jumped out of the car swiftly without locking the door. I was afraid any delay would make me change my mind…I walked upstairs. Jane opened the door and I said to her, Sorry, Jane, I do not want the divorce anymore............................

Married or not...........Contd.

The next day, I came back home very late and found her writing something at the table. I didn't have supper but went straight to sleep and fell asleep very fast because I was tired after an eventful day with Jane. When I woke up, she was still there at the table writing. I just did not care so I turned over and was asleep again.

In the morning she presented her divorce conditions: she didn't want anything from me, but needed a month’s notice before the divorce. She requested that in that one month we both struggle to live as normal a life as possible. Her reasons were simple: our son had his exams in a month’s time and she didn't want to disrupt him with our broken marriage.

This was agreeable to me. But she had something more, she asked me to recall how I had carried her into out bridal room on our wedding day. She requested that every day for the month’s duration I carry her out of our bedroom to the front door ever morning. I thought she was going crazy. Just to make our last days together bearable I accepted her odd request.

I told Jane about my wife’s divorce conditions. . She laughed loudly and thought it was absurd. No matter what tricks she applies, she has to face the divorce, she said scornfully.

My wife and I hadn't had any body contact since my divorce intention was explicitly expressed. So when I carried her out on the first day, we both appeared clumsy. Our son clapped behind us, daddy is holding mommy in his arms. His words brought me a sense of pain. From the bedroom to the sitting room, then to the door, I walked over ten meters with her in my arms. She closed her eyes and said softly; don’t tell our son about the divorce. I nodded, feeling somewhat upset. I put her down outside the door. She went to wait for the bus to work. I drove alone to the office.

On the second day, both of us acted much more easily. She leaned on my chest. I could smell the fragrance of her blouse. I realized that I hadn't looked at this woman carefully for a long time. I realized she was not young any more. There were fine wrinkles on her face, her hair was graying! Our marriage had taken its toll on her. For a minute I wondered what I had done to her.

MARRIED OR NOT, YOU SHOULD READ THIS...

“When I got home that night as my wife served dinner, I held her hand and said, I've got something to tell you. She sat down and ate quietly. Again I observed the hurt in her eyes.
Suddenly I didn't know how to open my mouth. But I had to let her know what I was thinking. I want a divorce. I raised the topic calmly. She didn't seem to be annoyed by my words, instead she asked me softly, why?
I avoided her question. This made her angry. She threw away the chopsticks and shouted at me, you are not a man.......................
That night, we didn't talk to each other. She was weeping. I knew she wanted to find out what had happened to our marriage. But I could hardly give her a satisfactory answer; she had lost my heart to Jane. I didn't love her anymore. I just pitied her!
With a deep sense of guilt, I drafted a divorce agreement which stated that she could own our house, our car, and 30% stake of my company. She glanced at it and then tore it into pieces. The woman who had spent ten years of her life with me had become a stranger. I felt sorry for her wasted time, resources and energy but I could not take back what I had said for I loved Jane so dearly. Finally she cried loudly in front of me, which was what I had expected to see. To me her cry was actually a kind of release. The idea of divorce which had obsessed me for several weeks seemed to be firmer and clearer now.......to be continued !!

Relationships (conclusion)....

The best and most beautiful things in the world cannot be seen or even touched they must be felt with your heart, never break the heart that truly loves you so remember you aren't going to be his first his last or his only, he loved before and he will again but if he loves you now what else matters? He is not perfect and you aren't either and the two of you will never be perfect but if he makes you laugh and admits to being human and making mistakes, hold on to him and give the most you can...... 

He is not going to quote poetry, he is not going to be thinking about you every moment but he will give you part of him that he knows you can break.... Don't hurt him, don't change him don't expect more than he can give, try not to over analyze smile, when he makes you happy, yell when he makes you mad and miss him when he's not there.... The gaps in between your fingers are made for filling so let him and if you fight, kiss and make up...... you will be fine.......... lol

Relationships contd....

If you cant get someone out of your head maybe they are supposed to be there, never give up on the things that make you smile, it hurts when you have someone in your heart but you cant have them in your arms.... The greatest challenge in life is finding someone who knows all your flaws and mistakes and still loves you with everything they have.... 

Love is like war.....easy to start hard to end..... impossible to forget . 

Relationships

Cont. from....... You will fight with your best friend, you will blame a new love for things an old one did, you will cry because time is passing too fast and you will eventually lose some one you love. So take too many pictures laugh too much and love like you've never been hurt..., because every sixty seconds you spend being upset is a minute of happiness you will never get back. Love is giving him the power to destroy you but trusting him not to. Real love stories never have happy endings because real love stories never end . You know you are in love when the hardest thing to say is GOODBYE. Never make somebody your everything because when they are gone you've got nothing, having the love of your life break up with you and say we can still be friends is like your dog dying and your mum saying you can still keep it......... will post the rest in an hour !! 

Speaking with Pictures

All about the blues !!

As we grow up we learn that even one person that wasn't supposed to ever let you down probably will, you will have your heart broken probably more than once and its harder every time, you will break hearts too (definitely), so remember how it felt when yours was broken..............to be cont.

Great Men Hide

There is this silent truth that I discovered as I began to meditate through the lives of great men of purpose and destiny in the Holy scripts. There seem to be a time in the lives of each one of them when they were either hidden or went in to hiding by themselves. Was God weak in protecting them? Or is it a principle that God adopts in raising His men? We need to know! In order to be able to take proper steps on our individual journeys to destiny.

Noah was hidden by God in a ship until the floods were past, Moses was hidden by his parents until a time came when he could no longer be hidden, Elijah was hidden by the brook Cherith until God was ready to act, David was divinely kept in the wilderness till the day of his showing unto Israel, Even Saul went to hide behind the stuff until Samuel picked him out. Joseph was divinely kept in the palace prison until the time that his word came, Josiah was divinely hidden until he was ready to displace Athaliah, Mephibosheth was snatched in to hiding until nobody thought any member of Saul’s house was left alive, Elizabeth had to conceal the pregnancy of John the Baptist for several months and top on the list are the several hidings the Lord Jesus had to experience, from the time that Mary stayed with Elizabeth till Herod (they that sought the child’s life) had died and of course the 12 disciples had to wait in an upper room in Jerusalem. The big question here is why did they hide?

Why did they hide?

I believe they neither hid nor were hidden because God was unable to protect them. This is exactly what makes this study very worthwhile. I have seen very spiritual people suffer because of this salient matter and the kingdom of God had lost several generals who stepped out too quickly and lost their lives in return. Why did Jesus have to be taken away from the reach of Herod? Could God not have killed Herod? Certainly! But the answer is simply found in the statement, “That it may be fulfilled according as it was written in the book…” which appears very frequently in scriptures.

Beloved, it looks as if there are some things that God has set ever before you came to be which cannot be altered but be fulfilled. The implication of this is that the safety of Jesus had been predetermined and it had specific dimensions that had to be adhered to if Jesus were to escape premature death though He were the Son of God. It was the Lord’s will that Moses should be hidden while other babies lost their precious lives. It seems to me as if God delights in this strategy to defeat the hordes of hell as they let loose to destroy any precious life that God releases on this earth even from the womb. The wonderful thing is the way God hides them.

Another thing is that this is just the way God chooses to do it. Remember the scripture: in the furnace of affliction thou has chosen me, (Isaiah 48:10).

Beloved, here comes your own responsibility. Whenever you notice that there seems to be some greatness attached to your destiny or you sense a very unique purpose of God over your life. It may be that you are the Lord’s strategy to counter attack a particular move of hell in our land and nation or even in the entire world. Do you sense God raising you to be a deliverer in Israel? You may need to face some hiding just before your day of showing.

Joseph like many of us today, rather than settling down to find the real meaning and implication of his dreams, was busy shouting about a vision he didn’t really understand. Rather than get support, he only succeeded in arousing enemies and men that would attack the purpose of his life. Friend, have you also been a parrot like Joseph? Then get ready for what he got. Most of the times the people we celebrate immaterialized visions with are the people who hate to see it happen. May I advise you to be like Elisha who kept telling those 50 loud prophets that, “I KNOW, HOLD YOUR PEACE!”

There is a time to hide and there is a time to manifest. The truth is, “ONLY HIDDEN THINGS ARE REVEALED”. You may never have any day of manifestation until you have been to the hiding station where God’s great men are prepared. You may have noticed that God has been telling you great things about the future but you seem to be very far from the manifestation of these things. Rather than going out to the public to begin to work them out, why don’t you wait in God’s station until He is ready to manifest you.

Certainly we would not be in hiding forever but only until a time appointed by the father. A time is coming when Jesus will be bold enough to tell Herod that he is a fox and that he cannot do anything to him but that was IN HIS DAY. Remember that he had to run away for the Herod of his beginnings. You may need to avoid today what you will still come and quench tomorrow. This is God’s strategy to disillusion the devil. He told the disciples not to turn in to the way of the Gentiles yet but he ended up using the same disciples to open up the gentile nations for salvation. There is a lesson to learn from this.

EVERY TIME IS NOT YOUR TIME. DO YOU HAVE A PURPOSE? THEN YOU HAVE A TIME. You need to recognize the divine timing over your life and learn not to step ahead of it as well as not to lag behind it. In hiding, God veils your real purpose before the world and leaves them guessing and perceiving that something is about to happen. He takes you through lonely and tough roads as He separates you from all that you've ever been used to. This period is not the time to be shouting around the little secrets that He reveals to you in order to keep you going. You need to know how to nurse your Moses out of public view otherwise the sword of Pharaoh will hit it ever before it grows at all. Take a deep thought now and realize how many dreams you lost in the process of sharing it ever before you did anything about it. Rather than talk or even minister on the purpose of God for your life, WHY DON’T YOU KEEP QUIET AND NURSE THIS VISION TILL IT BEGINS TO SPEAK FOR ITSELF.

I believe several works, dreams and purposes have died already as we kept shouting about it ere we did it or even gained a full understanding of it’s implications. It’s time to repent before another Moses is cut to shreds.

My World

Life is beautiful as we all know it. but its full of ups and downs and the more one pushes forth in life, the more challenges one gets to face on a daily basis.

it is pertinent that we remain resilient and determined in this troubled world where anarchy reigns supreme.

let us one and all rise up and fight the scourge of inhuman treatment and welcome each one to a world of peace and perfect happiness!

you are all blessed

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